Parenting is not an easy feat to pull off, but there are several ways to go about it, so that might help you if you end up being a mom or a dad. Or not. It depends.
But one thing is certain: being a gentle parent does not mean that you’re not preparing your kid for a “tough” world. In fact, that is exactly what you as a parent ought to do to prep them for things to come.
And one mother has come out with a story exemplifying just that.
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Meet N’tima Preusser, a wellness coach and mother who who uses her TikTok channel to educate folks on all things health, adulting and parenting
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Meet N’tima Preusser, a holistic wellness coach, personal trainer, mindset specialist, and mother who uses her TikTok channel to educate folks on all things health, adulting and parenting.
In one of her more recent videos, she tackled the topic of gentle parenting, and what it actually means in the “tough world”. Specifically, she shared a story of how a teacher yelled at her daughter and how the daughter handled it, having never experienced aggressive rhetoric at home.
In one of her videos, she tackled the topic of how “gently parented” kids could ever manage to survive in a “tough world”
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To explain it, she used a story of how her daughter got yelled at by a teacher who was in a foul mood
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The story goes that N’tima noticed a picture her daughter drew—it was of her crying. When asked about it, the daughter explained how one of the teachers at school started yelling at her during recess. She suspected that the teacher was having a rough day and simply took it out on her.
This in turn made the daughter angry. And she felt that way until quiet time came along and she drew the picture, this way channeling the anger and calming down.
What happened right here is the kid, having been raised “gently”, tackled a “tough world” problem, and did it like a champ. “My child did not crumble when she was faced with disrespect. Instead, she was able to recognize this isn’t what I deserve. And this doesn’t have much to do with me,” elaborated N’tima.
After being yelled at, N’tima’s kid identified the emotions and channeled them into a drawing, thus dealing with it in a healthy way
“Not only are they going to survive the big tough world, they’re going to thrive because they’re not going to have to spend the majority of their adulthood healing from their childhood”
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In other words, she identified the situation and her feelings, and managed to process them in a healthy way, thus calming down.
“Not only are they going to survive the big tough world, they’re going to thrive because they’re not going to have to spend the majority of their adulthood healing from their childhood,” concluded N’tima.
In contrast, the “tough world” approach would have ended up forcing the kid to hide her anger, as it’s an emotion that’s traditionally considered socially harmful and hence should be avoided at all costs by bottling it up.
The video managed to get over 2.1M views on TikTok
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N’tima also explained that another teacher talked to the teacher who yelled at her daughter about the issue
Many agreed that the kid is extremely smart on an emotional level—actually more than most adults
Besides, the tough world demands that you be aggressive and stand your ground, and that being gentle is not the way too go, too “weak”. But is that the proper way? N’tima’s story begs to differ.
And people couldn’t agree more. The video went viral soon after its posting, garnering over 2.1 million views with nearly 460,000 likes and thousands of comments and shares.
In the comments, folks pointed out just how mature and equipped N’tima’s daughter really is, despite being much younger, to deal with “real world” struggles and challenges. Many expressed how much they would have benefited from being taught to manage emotions and identify when someone else is having a bad day.
According to the National Association for the Education of Young Children, kids with higher emotional intelligence are better at paying attention and being more engaged in a school setting, tend to have more positive relationships, and can, needless to say, empathize on a higher level. So, a win all around.
And a lack of skill in managing emotion might lead the kid to be more prone to anger and pessimism, have trouble accepting criticism, expressing themselves and be oblivious to emotional cues in others.
Be sure to check out N’tima’s video and TikTok channel to learn more, but before you go, tell us what you think about this in the comment section below!
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