Hey Pandas, What Are The Biggest Deal-Breakers For You?

My question is what do others see as a deal breaker behavior.

#1

Religion. Fine for you. Don't try to sell or convert me. I'm an adult, educated, older. A lot of people use it to separate, to misinform, excuse or convert. No thanks.

#2

Selfishness, rudeness and not liking animals. That's my top 3.

Note: You are off the hook if you don't like animals because of an allergy or a bad experience. The first two are non-negotiable.

#3

The inability to discuss or maturely debate. Most things people argue about and get angry over are subjective. You should be able to express your views and opinions without being shut down or criticized in a harsh, hateful manner.
To add on to that, people should just plain listen to one another, given the "speaker" is being respectful.

#4

Believing that only *one* interpretation of God exists, and that all should live according to that *one* version of whatever scriptures/dictates... and then using that "doctrine" as a bad excuse to do horrible things to others. (I have faith. I have no religion.)

#5

People who are unable to apologise or use the term "I apologise and am sorry BUT...

#6

Lying, especially incompetent bald-faced lying that would insult any person’s intelligence. My childhood was so full of self-righteous liars that it is a real trigger point for me.

#7

You don't care about animals.

#8

Rudeness, there is no need for it at anytime, even if the other person is an a**, always be kind. Kindness winds them up even more, it's great.

#9

People who are incapable of admitting they are wrong no matter how large or small.

#10

Not respecting my time.

#11

1. Animal abuser
2. Not caring about other people's interests or life
3. They are Racist, Sexist, or Abelist. Pretty much any kind of "ist".
4. Homophones and transphobes also are no deal.

These types of people will never be my friends.

#12

1) Disrespecting or insulting a person because of their race. I have never once in my life had a single negative thought in my head because of this. I realize that we are a bit different, and I truly enjoy the experience of learning.
2) Disrespecting or insulting a lady. I consider myself a true gentleman. The term does confuse me a bit though. If a man goes too far all gentleness flies out the window. More than once I have ended up in the ER because of this. (Them as well of course).
3)Disrespecting or insulting a person because of their sexual orientation. My Uncle Mike was gay and was far more of a true father to me than the neglectful/abusive thing that impregnated my Mother. He bought me my first wristwatch, taught me how to drive a car and taught me to believe in myself and have true self-respect.
4)Disrespecting or insulting a person because of homelessness. I have done literally hundreds of hours of volunteer work for them, feeding them primarily (ex Chef) but many other ways as well. I have spoken and gotten close to many of them, and the overwhelming majority are there because they have simply fallen on hard times such as losing a job. Others unfortunately have mental issues, and others (ladies primarily) are simply trying to escape abusive relationships.
I admit that I am a bit of a rare breed. I tend to care about others more than I care about myself.

#13

Dehumanizing anyone

#14

Casual lawbreaking. More rife now than ever before, if someone has no respect for a simple set of rules that civilised people are supposed to abide by, they're going to treat everything and everyone in their world (including you) with the same lack of respect.

#15

Double standards.

#16

Lying. Honesty is the only policy, unless it's a joke, but don't forget to let everyone in on it afterwards.

#17

Personally: Trump lover, lying, smoking, bad hygiene.

Things that I'd love to see changed in the US: attitudes about climate change, severe problems with education, government subsidies to huge corporations that don't freakin' need them.

Worldwide: SOMEONE STOP PUTIN FROM BEING A D&CKHEAD.

#18

People who use excuses to justify their bad behaviour. "But I'm like his because of xyz, you understand right ? No, no we don't.

#19

Trying to sell me something by trash talking the competition. If your product can't stand on it's own...then the sale is over.

Also, people with high and mighty attitudes. Be humble around me. You're not better than everyone else. If you act like you are, then that makes everyone else better than you.

#20

A weird one - but since this is opinion - being undependable.

#21

→Rudeness to and ignoring of service workers.
→Racism, sexism, intolerance

#22

Turning everything into extremes and using Ad hominem argumentations. Way too common lately, though

#23

People who don't accept others for being themselves. No matter their color, gender, preference (in anything really), background, appearance, style, ANYTHING. We are all people. Why can't so many people except that?

#24

People who think things like shoplifting are a joke. I get that, more than even, people wanna stick it to the Man...but jeez guys, it's the little guys that catch hell for your amusement. Knock it off.

And being rude to service workers in general.

#25

Homophobia... Enough said for me.

#26

- people who dont like cats (big cat person i grew up with 2 cats)
- people that think cats are how they are shown in comics and tv shows, they can be very well behaved and gentle creatures! i cant remember any time where our cats knocked something over or bit someone.
- not be mindful of my 500+ hotwheel collection (no redlines :( )
- not like tawog or regular show
- not laughing at my dark jokes :)))))))))))))))))))))

#27

1. Lack of compassion. 2. Corporal punishment. 3. Backpedaling/making terrible excuses. 4. Gum smacking (misophonia) 5. Terrible bias 6. Toxic masculinity/femininity 7. Litter bugs 8. Ppl who spread lies/misinformation on medicine/science.

#28

Racism, Sexism, and Homophobia.

#29

Cancerous amounts of ads and/or paywalls

#30

People who are too materialistic and likes expensive stuff and can't even afford it, people who glorifies Kardashians ?

#31

If they've ever cheated. I can't trust a person like that.

#32

Deal breaker - they don't like my dog.
Bigger deal breaker - my dog doesn't like them.

#33

Lying, stealing, cheating, vain, arrogance, racism, sexism, ageism, homophobic types, kiss a$$es. All dealbreakers professionally & personally. I’m a dog person and can’t have cats because I have birds. I used to have chinchillas…..

#34

Disrespect of people & planet

#35

Smoking tobacco. It killed my father and I just can't handle it. It's still a trigger to this day.

#36

Not having any friends. If someone I’m seeing doesn’t have any friends and are all alone they will try to keep me from having any friends too. I’ve known my best friend for 40+ years and no one is going to keep me from seeing her. Just because they are friendless doesn’t mean I have to be too.

#37

You don't get a second chance to make a first impression. Anything that betrays a person's trust means that someone else's trust in you has no value to you. I feel likewise about such people. Coal and diamonds are exactly the same thing (carbon) with one crucial difference: one is rare, precious, valuable and difficult to acquire. The other is plentiful, common and fit only to be burned. Interesting how people are the same way.

#38

Not respecting my space, both physically and with my time. I'm someone who needs a lot of time to myself, to relax and recharge my social batteries, and while I do want to spend time with you, I also need you to understand that I can't give you every free minute I have.

#39

People who use an aspect of themselves to justify a*****e behavior. For example, one I see commonly: "I'm an introvert. I'm always making plans to do stuff, then back out last minute! Haha" and act like it makes them oh so quirky.No, you're an a*****e with no respect for your friends and no time management skills.

#40

Assuming I am a manchild based on interests. I've watched My Little Pony, I like anthros, and I love to write romantic stories. The moment my date finds these out and judges me, I'm outta here.

#41

In a mate it has been cheating, couldn't/wouldn't keep a job/get a job, racism, alcoholism, wouldn't let me show them affection, were a bad influence and/or mean to my son, or were mentally emotionally physically abusive.

#42

Lying. A pattern of a lying lifestyle. Broke up with 6 guys bc they lied to me & others.

#43

liars, in work and relationships.

#44

racist, people talking behind your back, childish ness, people who belittle others

#45

Religion and politics are two topics I don’t want to ever discuss with other people. Bc more often than not, those that don’t agree with you on either topics will either try to change your mind and join them or get nasty and rude just bc you agree with them.

#46

Racism. Homophobia. Transphobia. Etc.

#47

Not in any particular order: Throwing garbage elsewhere than a bin. Smoking - I get bronchitis and pneumonias. Pets - I love pets; my body can't take them (same as smoking). Bad hygiene. Long and/or dirty nails. Rudeness to those who are assisting you (restaurants, medical, etc.). Lateness as a lifestyle. No table manners - you need sleeves and a closed mouth in particular. Lawbreaking - I don't care no one is around, this is a stop sign and you need to stop; you also need to park correctly.
PS I'm happily married; my DH passed the test a long time ago.

#48

Lying by any means !

#49

Jealousy. I shouldn't have to defend myself for talking to women, including people I've known since childhood, and deescalate your rage and accusations. If we're together, it's because I really like you. I'm going to trust you completely and have confidence in your choices. If you want something else, so be it. I shouldn't have to force you into being with me. I expect the same in return. In the past, it turns out she was projecting her insecurities after being unfaithful herself. Ended it and moved on.

#50

Religion and politics are two topics I don’t want to ever discuss with other people. Bc more often than not, those that don’t agree with you on either topics will either try to change your mind and join them or get nasty and rude just bc you don’t agree with them.

#51

Bigotry: homophobia, scary religious fundamentalism (anti LGBTQIA, anti other faiths, anti evolution, anti vax etc.) Tough though because there are a lot of members of a conservative sect in my small community and I pass the time of day with them… though their conservatism is not anti science or anti any individual so I wouldn’t describe it as bigotry.

#52

Do not make fun of someone who meditates, believes in the healing power of herbs, (not discounting modern medical science here. They can work together) or loves looking for crystals. Just to try to force me to believe you’re right about a political prisoner who died 2000 years ago. Faith and spirituality are part of what makes us who we are. Discuss if you can discuss it with others. If not let. It. Go.

#53

Relationship wise, if she likes dogs. No. I'm a cat person through and through.

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